Today, the Ferries Wheel proudly offers the work of another Ferries — the professor’s daughter Laura, , written after last week’s meeting of the Center Grove Community School Corporation Board of School Trustees. It’s long (a point-by-point response to arguments made at the meeting), and in my humble opinion, well worth the time — a heartfelt plea for compassion, empathy, and, above all, sanity.
Dear Superintendent and School Board Members,
I attended Thursday night’s School Board Meeting and I have a few thoughts on what was said, and what was not said, that I feel I need to have heard. After all, everyone deserves to be heard, not just the loudest people in the room. Before that, however, I do want to thank you for taking the time to struggle with these weighty decisions and the time to listen to the parents whose children’s lives and safety are, unfortunately or otherwise, in your hands at this time. For the most part, the meeting was respectful, calm, and informative. For that, you have my thanks.
That being said, there were a number of falsehoods, false equivalencies, and just plain misinformation presented at the meeting that I cannot stay silent on. I know that everyone wants what is best for their own child and that many people are fighting for what they believe is best for children in general, but I fear that their good intentions are tinged by misconceptions and outright misrepresentations they have been subjected to, leading to flawed, if perhaps well-intentioned, reasoning. The meeting was not the forum for voicing disagreement, but neither can I allow some of the things said to go unchallenged.
First and foremost, it is simply not true that “only one side” is trying to force their views on the other. Those who wish not to wear masks are inherently imposing their opinions (and viruses) on everyone else. It leaves the rest of us no choice of whether we want to be exposed to their viruses or not. It is a reality that neither side can have their way without “forcing” it on the other. By fighting against mask wearing, that “side” is forcing others to accept the risks that going unmasked pose to all people at this time – whether they wear masks or not. The only way masking is particularly effective is if all people wear them – not just the minority that chooses to. So, yes, the anti-maskers are absolutely asking to force those on the “other side” to accept their opinion against their will. That self-righteous argument is null and void.
Also, there is no “Constitutional Parental Rights” that would give a parent complete sovereignty over their child and their choices how to raise that child based solely on what they think is “best” for that child. Especially in the face of a medical emergency. That is farcical. That argument would suggest that any parent, by the simple act of procreation, would have the right to beat their child if they saw this as being in the child’s “best interest” from a disciplinary perspective. There are laws in place to protect children and limit parents’ rights in this realm for the sake and safety of the child. It would give the parent the “right” to withhold necessary medical care, such as cancer treatments, if they felt doing so was in the best interest of their child against medical advice. But there have been several high profile cases in recent years where the government stepped in for the sake of the child when parents attempted to do exactly this. Parents will face charges if they choose to “pray away” their children’s diseases such as infections, or diabetes instead of seeking proper medical care, even if their religious beliefs say to trust in God. Vaccines? For the good of public health, mandatory vaccination of children has been required for generations, and the right of authorities to do this has consistently been upheld in legal challenges. The government has many rules instituted to protect children, regardless of parental choices: minimum ages of consent, required schooling (even home schooling has official oversight), minimum ages to marry, legal drinking age, age-related driving requirements, mandatory car seats … . The “Constitutional Parental Rights” in a legal sense, from what I can tell, has to do with the right to be involved in the regular decision-making of how to raise your child in the context of divorce and custody agreements, so that one parent cannot freeze the other out of valid parenting decisions. It absolutely does not trump any higher authority making decisions the affect your child in the name of community health and safety. Personal rights and freedoms have consistently been and absolutely should be curtailed when the safety of others hangs in the balance.
I feel badly for any child who really, truly struggles to wear a mask. There are children with autism who are unable to understand the need or who experience sensory sensitivity that makes wearing a mask truly intolerable. I am sorry some find it stressful and may, as a result, experience headaches and physical manifestations of that stress. However, this does not in any way mean that the majority of children shouldn’t wear masks. In fact, it means quite the opposite. These few children who cannot wear masks need the people who can (even those who don’t want to or don’t like it) to wear their masks to protect them, the most vulnerable. My mask protects you, after all. If there are kids so sensitive they cannot wear them, then all they can rely on is the safety afforded by others’ masks. That is simple logic.
As for brittle children who lacked the coping skills to successfully navigate the pandemic … Again, I am very sorry for those situations. It is truly tragic. However, the answer is not to abandon all mitigation strategies that might prove challenging for them. All that will do is prolong the pandemic. No one wants the pandemic. No one wants mitigation strategies. No one wants quarantines. No one wants masks. No one wants COVID-19, believe me. I know more than I ever wanted to about that. I had COVID-19 before I was eligible for the vaccine and it was miserable, but I was lucky and, sick as I was, rode it out at home. I lost my grandfather to the disease and said goodbye via Facetime. Watching him struggle for breath, in so much obvious pain he likely wasn’t even aware we were with him virtually, is nothing I will ever forget. It is not something I would ever wish on anyone. Abandoning mitigation efforts is not the way to deal with children struggling through those efforts to keep them safe. That child needed the help of a therapist to learn coping strategies and resilience in the face of adversity, not a mother parading her around a group of strangers. There are other ways to deal with the very real emotional fallout of living through the worst pandemic in 100 years that do not involve scrapping safety measures.
No, masks are not 100% effective. No rational person ever claimed that they were. When worn properly by the majority of people, however, they do significantly reduce the rate of spread and can be one of multiple valuable tools in a mitigation strategy to increase safety. This has been shown in both laboratory studies and anecdotal observations in real-time. Yes, professional respirators fitted correctly are much more effective at filtering out the tiniest airborne particles. But I find it utterly baffling that people argued that, because a cloth mask is not as effective as the most effective mask available to anyone, they are worthless and we shouldn’t mask at all. That is, quite frankly, a non-sequitur. If anything, that argument suggests all children should have access to respirators, not that we should abandon masking altogether. But all joking aside, the choice is not only 100% effectiveness or nothing. I’ll take the estimated 70% reduction in spread that fabric masks worn properly can offer over the 0% reduction of no masks at all. It is also worth noting that the entire 5 micron size seized upon in this argument (that only a respirator can filter out 5-micron-sized aerosolized particles) is flawed in two ways. First, it ignores the fact that cloth masks work differently than respirators. They work most effectively by keeping droplets of the wearer contained, thus reducing the chance of anything becoming aerosolized to begin with. Second, there is reason to believe that the whole 5 micron as the upper limit of aerosolize-able particles is in itself inherently flawed (for an accessible discussion of this, read the article “The 60-Year-Old Scientific Screwup That Helped Covid Kill”. Research in the world of physics suggests that particles larger than 5 microns can, in fact, act as aerosols and float in the air. Infection in such floating particles could, therefore, be filtered out by other masks with a larger weave than a respirator.
Lastly, I must respond to the argument that I find most truly abhorrent: Since 99% of children survive the virus, why are we putting so much effort into reducing risk at all … ? That argument is tantamount to saying that statistically, it is unlikely to be my child, so I’m okay with it being someone else’s. I don’t want any child to suffer from this disease if it can be prevented. I do not want any child to die without knowing I have done everything possible to protect them. That anyone is willing to accept the severe illness or death of one out of every 100 children (that’s 90 children in Center Grove alone, by the way) without trying everything they possibly can to prevent it is chilling. Who gets to pick the 90? No one. The virus does not discriminate. But even if you could, which 90 would it be? Every child is precious. Every child deserves protection – even if doing so is annoying or somewhat onerous for others. People should be willing to do this themselves. They have been given freedom of choice and, to paraphrase a favorite film, they chose poorly. They have proven they are unwilling to do what they can to protect others. They say they want to protect kids, but they are more concerned about avoiding an annoying piece of fabric on their face. Which is more important? Protecting kids from the inconvenience of wearing a mask or protecting them from a potentially deadly contagion? The answer seems obvious, and yet, here we are.
I am a mother. I have twin 5-year-olds (almost 6, they’d point out) who started kindergarten this year. My son is a medical miracle. The twins were born prematurely. My son has preemie lung damage. He was born with congenital heart defects and congenital kidney defects. He had open heart surgery at 7 months old. He still has a heart murmur because they were not able to fix his VSD (ventricular septal defect) completely. Due to the size of his VSD, he should have suffered from significant pulmonary hypertension, but he didn’t. Turns out, his second heart defect, an “anomalous muscle bundle,” restricted excess blood flow through the pulmonary artery and actually protected him from that consequence of the VSD. As I said, a miracle. He only has one functioning kidney, as the other kidney is deformed and non-functional (“multicystic dysplastic” is the technical term). His remaining kidney is not great (technically, simply “dysplastic”). He was expected to be on a transplant list by a year old. Here we are at 5 (almost 6!) and his function remains relatively stable around 50%. It is slowly declining by a few percentage points a year, but at this rate he may not need that transplant until his teens. Again, a miracle. Today he is a sweet, curious, bright little boy, so full of energy and life – more than I dared dream when he was a very sick baby in the Riley NICU. And now I find myself struggling and fighting to try to get people to care, to protect him and children like him.
My children have worn masks for over a year now. They wore them in daycare and they are wearing them now at Center Grove Elementary. We have talked about why it is important. They know Mommy and Daddy both wear masks at work and we wear them when we go out together. They saw me when I was sick; they know what illness from this virus looks like. They know this virus killed their beloved great-grandfather. They don’t want to have to wear masks any more than I want them to have to, but they do it because their safety and the safety of others is more important. I sew masks for them out of fabric they have picked themselves. We try to make it fun. They are not oppressed. They are not depressed. They are doing their part. Why is it so ludicrous to ask others to do the same?
Due to his medical history, my son would be very high risk for severe illness, were he to contract COVID. Some people might say that if we are worried, we should just keep him home. But he deserves to live his childhood, just like any other child. He deserves to go to public school, just like any other child. In fact, he has the legal right to it. And it is possible, with proper precautions, for him to do so with relative safety – even in this pandemic. Again, if proper precautions are taken. Use of masks is a vitally important tool to make that happen. He wears his mask. I have added filters to his mask to add one more layer of protection. But there is a really big hole in the Swiss cheese of his protection plan – other kids’ masks. My mask protects you, your mask protects me. Half of the equation is missing. We, as a community, are failing to use every tool in our arsenal to protect all of our community’s children as much as we possibly can. That is the real tragedy.
Now, I’d like to move on to my response to the adjusted plan specifically. At least it is something. It is better than what we had. It sets clear parameters for when what situation on the ground triggers what measures. But it stops short of “adequate.” It is a reactionary plan, not proactive. It is more than disturbing that we must wait for a certain number of kids to get sick before we do what we know will help reduce spread, rather than try to reduce the spread from the beginning. The fact that required masking is a part of your doomsday scenario proves that even you understand that masking is an important tool that can reduce spread. If you recognize the value, why not implement it before kids get sick? Why do we have to sacrifice 2% of the student population as tribute to the rabid anti-masking elements in our community before using a tool even you acknowledge works? How will you feel if one of those kids dies? Or even just experiences long term consequences? And by allowing infections to rise to 2% before trying to apply the brakes, you run a higher risk of that 20% absentee threshold and having to move to virtual school – which no one wants!
I am also disappointed that the plan did not call for any kind of testing program. The insidious thing about this virus is its ability to go relatively undetected in some infected people. Those asymptomatic carriers can unwittingly spread the virus to others, to whom it might do much greater damage. Presumably the current cases in the school were symptomatic, since folks aren’t really testing asymptomatic people at this time. Just imagine how many more carriers each school might have in addition to the identified, symptomatic cases. It seems quite likely that the true total of infected students is higher than you know, even now.
I’m not asking for masks permanently. I’m not even asking for masks all year. What I would have loved to see you do is have the strength to call for mandatory masks, as unpopular as that stance may be with some of your constituents, at least until vaccines are an option for all of your students. I know not all of these people will vaccinate their children. But once vaccines are available for children like mine, I will have one more tool, a good, strong tool, maybe even better than masks, to protect my children. At least they would have a better chance of avoiding severe illness. My son might have more of a fighting chance at all. Then, it might finally be safe enough to forgo masks. Then, those who don’t want to mask and don’t want to vaccinate will mostly just be hurting themselves and not others. We’d just have to hope that the remaining pool of folks didn’t provide a reservoir from which the next, worse variant springs.
Finally, I have heard that a number of people presented the board with “religious exemption” forms at the end of the meeting, claiming that mask wearing is against their religion. In response to that, I would just like to direct your attention to Leviticus 13:45 before you approve any of those exemptions. If covering one’s mouth to reduce the spread of leprosy is sanctioned, nay, dictated by the Bible, how are these pious folk arguing that mask-wearing to prevent the spread of communicable diseases is against their religion? Please, don’t let them get away with that deception!
If you have made it to the end of this letter, I thank you for your time. I am exhausted and I am heavy hearted with disappointment of my fellow citizens. 2020/2021 have been a test of our mettle as a nation, our ability to put the needs of others before our wants, and it is a test that I am sad to say we have failed miserably. We can do better and we should do better. It is time to prove we care about children, all children, through our actions, not empty words.
Sincerely,
Laura Ferries